Butterflies...are they real?

“Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.”

Carrie Bradshaw

Over texter....

So I decided not to have all my eggs in the "Larren" basket so I am going to explore other options...
I met "Tay" who is a 40yr old divorcee w/ a nine year old daughter. Not my normal type, but what the heck? He seemed sweet with his devotion to his daughter...We emailed a couple of times and decided to exchange numbers. We texted a little and then finally talked on the phone last night. It was an interesting conversation. We were pretty comfortable with each other(I think he was a little drunk) and the talk was nice. Until I started to notice that I was the only one asking any questions...he seemed to enjoy talking about himself...I finally had to end the conversation bc my puppy was going nuts...he then texted me twice to say goodnight..then this morning to say hi...then to see if I got to work ok...then to see if I was busy at work...then to see if he should come by and see me at work...and then to see if I got off...oh wait, there's my phone going off...............................................
Yup!! It's him...to see if I got home ok...I texted him back about 80% of the time today, so maybe this is my fault?? I am going to try and think of this as positive, I mean, what do I have to lose??

FYI

ALL NAMES WILL BE CHANGED TO PROTECT THE IDENTITY OF ANY LOSERS THAT I MAY DATE...I MEAN, THE GUYS...
B

"Larren"

ok! so back story on "larren"...rhymes with...anyways, went on first date about 4 days ago. The obligatory blah, blah...very polite, never got into the meat of any sort of conversation. Well, ladies(and perhaps gents) I went on date #2 with him. That was last night. Very interesting.
We decided to meet at Sherlock's. I like to think that I have "rules" to dating, but since I haven't been on a date in 2 years I threw them all out the window. Here are the things that bug me:
#1--He has class on Tues and Thurs nights till 9pm so he always seems to want to meet after. My rule has always been only contact me during normal business hours between 9am and 9pm but what the heck, I'll suck it up and meet him late.
#2--He's a freakin smoker!!! It's so gross to me...his profile(after i checked in hindsight) said 'no answer'...
#3--We actually kissed..well, no tongue, but a kiss and a really good one...I wouldn't let him use tongue b/c he smoked all night, but it was fun...
#4--He stayed at the bar after I left...really? I mean, I left at 12:30am...is that early these days??
#5--and probably the most bothersome...when i walked in he was talking to another girl...he was actually standing up at her table and talking to her!! She got stood up and they started talking...
What is he, the overly friendly, save the girl guy??

What does this mean? We have great conversations..and get along well...he likes heavy metal and I like rap, he's a republican and I am a democrat, he is kinda a nerd and I am....well, you get it...

Am I being too picky? Do I just enjoy the male attention? And, if so, then what does that say about me? UGH!!!! I think the most frustrating thing is that...wait for it...he hasn't called/texted me yet today....after he told me he would...(I know, feminists...save me the lecture) I think this dating thing is going to be a bumpy ride....

On a positive note: I met a deputy sheriff that I am supposed to meet next week and a 40 yr old divorcee that seems like fun....we'll see....stay tuned!

b

Here's how it all started...

OK, so I should probably give a back story before I go right into this whole thing. I turned 30 this year and it wasn't as hard as I expected it to be. I mean, I have a good paying job, good health, and great family and friends. I guess the only thing I am missing is a boyfriend. It sounds so archaic just admitting that out loud. Are feminists everywhere shouting in protest? I try and not think about it, but when you are ALWAYS the third, fifth, (insert your own odd number here) everywhere you go, you begin to think that it would be nice to have someone...if only to bring with you places...
SO, as I watched everyone else kiss their significant other at midnight(my birthday is on new years day) I made a resolution to start dating more. Well, weeks turned into months and before I knew it, it was March and I hadn't been on ONE date!
After a couple miller lite's, my liquid courage made me join match.com. I have only been on for a couple of weeks and it has been very interesting so far. I wanted to create a blog for people to follow and see just how hard it is to date...
Check out my next post to see about my first date...